Tuesday, June 4, 2013

When Time Flies

Do you ever catch yourself thinking, just where did that day go? Or maybe tried to figure out how the time zoomed past so quickly?

Or perhaps you just wonder how it escaped you that May is over and June has begun...

It seems like the more I try to capture each moment, the more they slip away from me. Time crawls. And disappears.

I seem to be soul searching more and more these days. And the more I learn, the more I examine my heart. The more I fail, the more I seek answers.

Have you ever been surrounded by laughing friends and felt alone?
Have you ever been touched by a sunset and felt like crying?
Have you ever stared into the eyes of someone you loved and know they didn't love you back?
Have you ever woken to singing birds and known that the only option was to pretend to smile?
Have you ever been trapped in your own disgust?
Have you ever thought there was no way out?

I learned something this week.

I learned that I hate myself.

Every part of me.

I know the ugliness of my own heart. I know the jagged edges and bitter tastes. I know the anger and jealousy. I know the blackness deep in my soul.

I admit them. I am human. Bare. Brittle. Bound to failure. {Romans 11:32}

Raw emotion cannot be erased. Shattered hearts cannot be remade.

I also realized that I expect myself to be perfect. I hold myself to a standard so high, the bar cannot be seen.... And it rips me apart, because I always fail and will always fail.

So I made a few decisions.

yes I do....
First of all, I am going to stop hating myself.

God made me just the way I am. He likes me. He LOVES me. He wants me to be this way. I cannot be perfect and I should not expect perfection. I have been washed in the blood of Christ and before God I am a pure lamb. I am free of guilt and shame and mistakes.

I am going to appreciate the things He has made. And I am one of them.

Second, I am going to live like no one is watching. How many times have I admitted to you that I am a people pleaser?

I think I have finally snapped the chord. God and God alone matters now. I am exhausted. I am broken. And it is all my own fault. I try so hard to please people I don't even need to. I do things I don't like just to make them happy. I pretend to not care when I care very much.

This time, it is not something that I have decided. God actually showed me how ridiculous I was. He showed me all the things I was doing to get other people's attention. He showed me how silly I was. If someone wants to be with me...they will be. They will choose me. It is not hard for me to give love back to someone. If they try...I WILL love them back. It is my nature. But from now on, I am not going to chase empty smiles. I know who loves me and who does not by what they say and do. It is no mystery. And I know that the friends that really love me are going to be my real friends and I am going to stop chasing fruitless friendships. I am going to do what I love. I am going to do what God asks of me and stop ignoring the small voice whispering in my thoughts for the desires of my own heart.

It is time.

Time to be a voice, not an echo.


Sometimes, you can't explain some love. Sometimes, it goes deeper than your head. It springs from your heart.
I am going to give this love to God. Let Him control it. Let Him move it. Let Him guide it.
And wait for Him to lead down the path it takes.
I hadn't intended to baer my heart tonight. It just sort of happened. I guess I am learning to stop hiding. I hid for years, in fear. And I am beginning to learn that some things are meant to be shared. So that we can learn from each other. We have to be vulnerable to rejection to be open to acceptance.
This has my song the last few weeks:


  1. Wow. That was soul-baring. I'm commending you for that. It seems like it takes a lot of courage, and just as many mistakes, to let God guide you. (Man, I am getting philosophical here.)

    For me, at least, it's frustrating, because I don't know what He wants from me. I also hold myself to super-high standards, so -although it's helpful at times- it can be hard to make peace with being imperfect--and His creation.

    Sometimes, I'm just a really awful person, and I totally notice that about myself. (Obviously, I'm quite observant.) The hard part is when I realize that but sometimes don't bring myself to change my ways, to (as my gym teacher so eloquently yelled) "keep making the same mistakes over and over again." (I'm horrific at rugby; obviously, that is just unacceptable. I digress.)I'm trying to do better, but I can get so caught up in the moment, the arguments, the grades, the shots I should've done better. Kinda rambling, so I'll stop now. You get what I mean.
    Thanks for the post, Caitria.
    (Is there a word limit? If so, I must be getting close. Also, there are probably some spelling errors, so please ignore them. Thanks. ;)

  2. First off I must say: it's so wonderful and encouraging to see fellow believers turn and take their troubles to God and actually LISTEN to what he has to say!

    I totally know what you're getting at with the perfection issue. Perfection in human brokenness is indeed unattainable, but nevertheless it should still be our goal as Jesus was perfect, and becoming more and more like Jesus must be our goal. Yes, God loves you JUST as you are, but something I always like to remind people is the call is "Come as you are, but don't stay as you are." Change is good, change is essential. Dying to sin is something we need to do everyday - weeding out all the bad and ugly, even if it is something that would make others scream, "NO, it's just a part of your personality! Leave it be." Perhaps so, but what if that personality trait was something like arrogance? That would have to go. But rambling aside - I do understand what people are getting at by saying "God loves me as I am [therefore] I don't have to change". While that is a flawed statement, yes God created people with individual, quirky, wonderful personalities, and that's just it. BE that exact personality he meant for you to be!

    Annnd (promise I'm almost done) try people loving. While people pleasing is often done out of fear (think about that), people loving is done out of sincere love to do the best for that person (which means it won't always make that other person happy).

    K that's all. Take care!

  3. Aw, Caitria! You're great. Enough said. ;)

  4. :-) I am sorry that you have been having a hard time, and I am glad that you are finding peace.

    "For HE is our peace" Eph 2:14


I'm sincerely wondering if you are going to comment. Given you just read that blog post (or maybe skim read, at best, or maybe you've just skipped to the bottom). But, either way, whether you read it or not, NOW you have no doubt that I am crazy, are wondering if I am worthy of your time, and if it even matters that you say something. BUT, it does!!! Drop me a line! Can't tell you I will always respond coherently, but I WILL respond! And the comments... Well, they rather make my days. <3